Most of us have been there. Without warning, the person you’re dating, or even friends, will stop all contact with you. No texting, calling, emailing, nothing. They won’t even return or answer your calls or texts. But why? They just seem to fall off the face of the earth and for no good reason, right? Well maybe not a good reason, but there are a few psychological reasons people cut off all communication without, well, communicating why, and we just had to get to the bottom of it.

#1 Avoidance

The number one reason that we found for ghosting is avoidance. It is just easier to avoid the confrontation and messy conversations of ending a relationship, especially if contact is all through technological devices and there are no common ties like work associates, friends, etc. However, this is purely self protective and totally at the others parties expense. Not cool. If you want to ghost someone because it’s just “easier”, think about the damage you could be doing to someone else. If you’ve been been ghosted by an avoider? Good riddance, they are too emotionally self concerned to give you the love and attention you deserve.

#2 Time

Our lives are so busy these days that sometimes there are just a variety of other things on our plate that we don’t make the time to end a relationship the way we should. And we understand, we really do. However…make the time. It will leave you with less guilt and the other person with a reason why things ended. It’s important that you don’t leave the other person in limbo…just wondering. Lack of closure is often times harder to deal with than the end of a relationship.

#3 Lack of Compatibility

With so many dating apps out there now, people often feel like they are “wasting” time if they continue to communicate or date someone that isn’t “the one”. They can just hop on the app and find a bunch more prospects that may seem more promising. Instead of treating each person with politeness, they move on to the next because they convince themselves that there’s something better out there. If it wasn’t meant to be, then fine, but just say that!

So whether you’re the ghoster or the ghosted, we hope you take something away from this, which is…regardless of the reason, ghosting says a lot more about the other person than it does about you. They are just not willing to have what may or may not be, a difficult conversation to end the relationship with courtesy and kindness. They are also much more concerned about their needs than yours. So who wants that kind of energy in their life??? We don’t! Bye Felicia.