If there’s anyone who can understand a bad day, it’s me. (It’s probably you, too.) When those annoying days come, I’ll admit I tend to start a negative inner dialogue with myself. Those words ruin my day even further and I go to bed unsure, frustrated, and disappointed. There are certain things I like to do, however, to offset those negative thoughts. Here they are:

#1 Give yourself at least one compliment per day.

(I recommend doing so in the morning so you have a little pick-me-up before the hustle and bustle of daily life takes over.) Honestly, pick something, anything. Over time, your future self will thank you. I wholeheartedly believe that without bad days, we can’t truly appreciate the good days for what they are. If we only experienced happiness and joy, suddenly everything around us would drop in value; our relationships, our careers, our health, our education. Sprinkle in some crappy days here and some devastating ones there, and that, my friends, is a masterpiece of appreciation. That’s my biggest thing — forcing myself to appreciate what I have in this moment. Not what I want five years down the road or what I had in the past, but now. When I’m in a funk, I need this in my life as a reminder. By doing so, I’m telling myself it’s perfectly okay to be where I am, in the present.

#2 Please don’t compare yourself to people on social media, whether you know them personally or otherwise.

I’ve been there and it sucks. You feel like everyone around you has the perfect spouse with the perfect kids and the perfect home and the perfect car that go on perfect vacations where they see perfect sights and eat the world’s most perfect food paid for by their endless amounts of flowing cash. Um, no. We’ve all got issues. No one’s the epitome of happiness, talent, health, beauty, intelligence and wealth. We simply choose to share certain parts of our lives over others.

#3 Go on a date with yourself, girl!

It might sound silly, but take yourself out for a cup of coffee, spend the afternoon getting a blowout and manicure, go for an adventurous hike (or if you feel like a major splurge, head to Europe for a solo getaway), go see that movie you’ve been thinking about non-stop or take the day off and sleep, sleep, sleep! Even if you’re in a relationship, even if you have friends, do this for you. There’s something so fulfilling about taking care of your own physical and spiritual needs, away from everyone else.

I want to leave you with this — ladies, we all have “off” days, but we don’t need to have an “off” life. Take care of yourself from the inside, out. No one can love you the way you can.