You had a baby and you are completely overwhelmed with love for them, but sex is literally the last thing you want now.

First of all, you are not alone. Personally, I’ve been there and this is actually one of the most common issues after having a baby. Most people experience a low libido for 6-9 months afterwards. For one, you are probably exhausted, and therefore, sex seems like the last thing you want to do, right? Or maybe it just seems like another chore on your endless to-do list.

Add those to the physical changes you may see like a less than ideal body image and breasts that are now seen as functional rather than sexual. It’s no wonder you’re dealing with a severely reduced libido. The biggest factor is actually that your hormones are completely out of whack. Your estrogen levels raise significantly during pregnancy and then plummet after you give birth. This can be the main cause of a low sex drive even though the other factors may seem more obvious. There are a few things you can do to help you get back in the mood and on your way to a satisfying sex life:

# 1 Eat a healthy diet.

It’s easy to fall into temptation when you need extra energy or you’re just trying to grab something quick. However, eating healthy foods will help regulate your hormones and bring back your sex drive. Eating things that are high in carbs or sugar will just keep them at low levels.

#2 Exercise.

This will help boost energy and blood flow while helping you feel more confident in your own skin. Your body changes after a baby. It’s a fact! Don’t be too hard on yourself and realize that these things take time. Working out not only gives you time to yourself, but it also brings the focus to you and your needs, which doesn’t happen often when you’re a new parent.

#3 Make time for yourself.

Whether it’s date night, a yoga class, or just sitting (in quiet!) and reading a book, getting away from being a “mom” can make all the difference. We love our children, of course, but you can’t pour from an empty cup;) Do what you need to help take some well-deserved me time, step out of mommy-mode, and your sexy will follow.

#4 Talk to your partner.

Acknowledge it and discuss it with your partner. This one’s not easy for everyone. It’s so important to share how you’re feeling and let that person in on whats going on with you. You could both be so focused on the baby that you forget to think about yourselves. Also, what turned you on before, may not now. Tell your partner if you’d prefer them to draw you a nice bubble bath instead of taking you out for a night on the town. If you don’t tell them, how do you expect them to know?