One of the most important things I have learned is that you must love yourself before trying to love anyone else. It’s not as easy to do as you may think. We all have a ton of insecurities. For example, my nose is too big, I’m not skinny enough, I’m too short, she has more money than me…and the list goes on and on. You will never be happy or content with your life if you constantly compare yourself to others and talk negatively about yourself. You need to learn to shed those negative voices in your mind screaming that you are not good enough and realize that you are!
First of all, as cliché as this may sound, it’s about what is on the inside that counts. I know so many people in my field that are beautiful on the outside, but interacting with them you notice that they come off as very self-absorbed. This stems from internal insecurities. Confidentially know that you are awesome. This confidence brings positive energy to the world and to the people around you. Embrace your uniqueness and other people’s individuality. We can the world by being kind to ourselves and each other.
Secondly, treat yourself. For example, I love eating and especially love eating carbs. When I worked a long day, I show myself love by treating myself to a bowl of pasta. When I worked a long week, I treat myself to a Soul Cycle class to work off that bowl of pasta. I have found what makes feel good about myself. Everyone is different. I challenge you to search for what works for you.
Sometimes it’s the little things that matter. When I am feeling down, I treat myself to something special. That might be the bowl of pasta, a pair of shoes, an uber verse the subway, etc. It’s a great way of rewarding myself and telling myself that I deserve to do nice things for myself. Showing yourself love could be as easy as putting on your favorite outfit or doing your hair before going out. When I look good, I feel good. Sometimes I will even blast one of my favorite songs and look in the mirror and say “You are awesome.”
Self-love is the most important kind of love there is. When you truly love yourself, you can easily love others and make them feel just as loved and confident as you do.
5 Ways To Show Yourself Love:
- Work hard and be proud of yourself for doing so.
- Treat yourself with a little self-care. For example, a spa day or a new face mask.
- Be your own fan club by saying positive affirmations to yourself in the mirror.
- Show others you are confident by talking positively about yourself.
- Face your insecurities head on and be kind to yourself when doing so.
Written By: Rachel Hope of The Concrete Blonde