How Much Sex is Healthy?

We are sure this question comes up a lot in conversations with your girlfriends. We are sure you remember this being discussed during the Sex & the City Movie. Believe it or not, there is actually an optimal frequency for couples to have sex on a weekly basis. At the University of Toronto, researchers have found that couples who have sex at least once a week have noticed improvement in their wellbeing. The study found that more sex than that didn’t increase wellbeing more, but less negatively impacts wellbeing. Once a week is doable. Let’s do this!

How Do You Have Better Sex?

So now we know that once a week is a great goal for couples to have sex. Now what if you realize you need to up your frequency with your significant other? Here are some tips to spice things up:

#1 Set the Stage for a Romantic Night. We get it. Life is overwhelmingly busy and work is stressful. However, it’s important to keep the romance alive in your relationship. You need to make an effort. Clean up your place, set some sexy mood lighting, and light some candles. Show your partner that you are emotionally invested in them.

#2 Stop Comparing Yourself to Others. One of the biggest mistakes we are all making in life is comparing our lives to others. Don’t bring past relationships or ideas about sex from the media into your relationship. Create a sex life that feels good for you. Talk to each other about your personal expectations and what will make you happy.

#3 Get Rid of Distractions. This means turning off the TV and your cell phone. Come up with bedroom rules to create a space for sex and sexual exploration. You might think TV and your cell phone isn’t an issue. However, to have great sex, focus only on each other. It makes a big difference.

#4 Make Time for Sex. It’s important to make time for intimacy. Spontaneous sex in movies always looks so amazing and full of passion. However, in the real world, we plan our lives. Why would sex be any different? It’s unrealistic to think that without making an effort and planning you will fit sex in. Of course, have spontaneous sex, but also plan to make sure it happens regularly.

#5 Talk Sexually During Sex. Want things to get hot and heavy quickly? Start talking sexy to your partner. You will be surprised how quickly things heat up.

#6 Be Confident in the Bedroom. Tell your partner what you want, be loud, guide them, and be vocal about what you are enjoying.

#7 Read This Article from the Huffington Post About Experimenting.