Let’s talk pregnancy as a plus size woman, and squash the misconceptions that surround this topic; because honestly, they’re just a whole lot of opinions pretending to be facts.
Misconception #1: “You won’t be able to conceive, and if you do, you’ll miscarry or your baby will suffer.”
Well, this is straight up w-r-o-n-g. I was on birth control for a year and a half. Due to the way the pill made me feel, I chose to stop taking it. A week later, my husband and I had unprotected sex for the first time. Not only did we conceive a child, but I got pregnant on the first try! My pregnancy was a rather normal one — morning sickness, nesting, and cravings. I gave birth to my son on August 10, 2016. He’ll be two this year and is living proof he and I made it through.
Misconception #2: “You can’t be stylish, fat, and pregnant.”
I was never a fan of maternity wear, so I made the decision to purchase plus size clothing in an even larger size to accommodate my beautiful, growing belly. I shopped at Forever 21 Plus for black leggings, lightweight cardigans, and stretchy maxi dresses, ASOS Curve for some flirty skirts, loose-fitting tops, a few bra and panty sets and a lace robe, and Walmart for ballet flats and cozy, oversized t-shirts. Apart from the normal discomforts of pregnancy like heartburn and nausea, when it came to my wardrobe, I didn’t feel unstylish at all. It’s extremely possible to channel your inner goddess during pregnancy at any size without breaking the bank!
Misconception #3:“You won’t have any sex.”
Um…I had sex. A lot. In fact, we ended up having more sex during my pregnancy than ever before. So, I’m just going to leave this there.
Misconception #4: “You won’t be able to feel your baby kick.”
If I could roll my eyes any harder, they’d pop out of their sockets. My baby kicked me so much, a lot of the time he kept me up late at night. I could feel every kick, every hiccup, every flip and every flutter. It was equally wonderful as it was weird.
Misconception #5: “You’ll have a high risk pregnancy.”
Not once did any one of my team of five doctors tell me my baby was in danger or that I was a “high risk” case.
Misconception #6: “You won’t be able to walk or move.”
Being a larger person for all of my life, maneuvering my pregnant body wasn’t much of a struggle. Still a big belly, just bigger in a new, different way. The coolest thing about being a thick chick while pregnant? The entire hospital staff was impressed I’d managed to single-handedly get my baby’s room completely finished, followed by giving myself an elaborate pedicure the day before my induction (at thirty-nine weeks). To quote my girl Janice from Mean Girls — “Suck on that!”
If there’s one thing I’d like for you to take away from this is that no one’s experience will be identical to someone else’s. Pregnancy is hard enough without the added stress of people pretending to know how yours is going to go. Let’s keep things positive and uplifting, ladies! If we don’t have each other’s backs, who will?
To Inform: If you have any questions or concerns about pregnancy, speak with your OB/GYN.